The Anger No One Talks About After Birth: Understanding Postpartum Rage

You expected to cry.
You expected to be tired.

But no one told you about the rage.

That sudden surge of heat in your chest when the baby just won’t stop crying.
The frustration that builds, then spills—into sharp words, into yelling.
And the guilt that crashes in minutes later, heavy and silent.

You think: This isn’t me.
But this? This is how postpartum rage can feel.

While often overlooked in conversations about motherhood, postpartum rage is real—and you’re not the only one going through it.

So, what is postpartum rage?

It’s a powerful wave of anger or irritability that some mothers experience after childbirth. It can show up within the first few weeks—or even months—after delivery. It’s often triggered by hormonal shifts, physical exhaustion, and the stress of adjusting to life with a newborn. And though common, it remains rarely talked about, especially in spaces where moms are expected to always smile through the storm.

In India, there’s a cultural expectation that mothers should be grateful, selfless, and perpetually calm. But the truth is, motherhood is intense. It’s raw. And sometimes, rage is what comes out when your emotional bandwidth is maxed out.

Postpartum rage doesn’t make you a bad mother.
It makes you a human being under pressure.

Why does it happen?

After birth, your hormones drop rapidly. Add to that sleep deprivation, the loss of personal identity, overstimulation, and a flood of unrealistic expectations—and even the calmest, kindest person can feel like they’re about to boil over.

So what can you do when postpartum rage shows up?

Start by naming it. Acknowledge that you’re angry. That it’s okay to be angry.
Then, try to breathe through it—whether it’s a grounding breath, stepping outside for a few minutes, or moving into another room.
Talk to someone you trust. A friend. A partner. A professional.
And if the rage feels too big, too constant, or out of control—get help. You might be navigating a deeper postpartum mood disorder, and you deserve support.

At Putchi, we know that not all postpartum struggles are physical.
Some live in the heart. Some in the mind.
Some show up in moments no one else sees.

That’s why we offer more than clothing. We offer comfort that understands you—from bras that don’t pinch to soft loungewear that lets you breathe, stretch, and feel human again.

Because in motherhood, you need softness in more ways than one.

So if you’re feeling overwhelmed, irritated, or quietly breaking inside—know this:

You’re not alone. Not in your rage. Not in your healing.

Putchi is here—for the quiet sobs, the loud moments, and all the spaces in between.